Long story short

We met, became friends, I helped her to overcome in one of her emotional breakdowns. We became close, closer, closest. She proposed me, I accept. The best days of my life began. We discussed marriage, Agreed upon official proposal between families. I talked to my family, convinced them by doing whatever I could do to move forward with the marriage proposal. Proposal reached her family.

There were some mismatches in the family\'s but I was confident that those could have been talked and solved. She was little nervous about those back and forths in family decisions. Sometimes she said that this is not going to happen, I knew she is 21 and was studying for BDS in her family\'s expense and she can\'t take a bold stance as long as she is not standing on her own feet and was little immature on taking such a big decision of her life. I just tried to motivate her. I could see the difference in confidence in her tones - My confidence level also boosted when she attains confidence when I motivated her. At one moment she even said that if she tells her family that with little bold tone could make this marriage happen. You guys can\'t even imagine the happiness I felt when she said that. It was such a close moment to attain my queen.

Sadly, there were some other issues started in between us and she broke up with me. I was willing to do anything to get her back, ANYTHING. But, everything went in vain. I don\'t like to disclose those details here - One thing I would like to say is that it was not my mistake.

Let\'s come to the point, These are the things I have done to overcome this trauma:

1) Started to pray to god - Becoming close to god relieved me.

2) Put a rubber band on my wrist, whenever the memories of her irritated me, I pull the band and tortured myself. The trick is that my mind will avoid the chances to recollecting her memories. Learned this from Quora - Thanks, quora.

3) Involve in any activities that made me happier, Never let me get free time. Free times are the worst times which brought me her thoughts. I was a startup co-founder - I started to involve more in my works.

4) Keep a distance from the phone, WhatsApp, FB, Instagram. The communication channels which I used to keep in touch with her.

5) Listen to music especially in my case DJ, Big mood alternative.

6) Answers in quora. I started to help people in Quora who are facing the same trauma. Shared my experience and relieving them helped me a lot.

Thanks